I have started noticing a disturbing trend with our youth here in S.E. Arkansas. I believe that it is one of, if not the main thing that is destroying the lives of our youth. Premarital sex. I am not just talking about students that have dated each other for most of their high school lives and then on their prom night they decide, in a momentary lapse of judgement, to “do it”. I believe it is going far beyond this.
I had dinner with a student/friend not too long ago and we talked about this subject. He confessed to me a long standing, sexual relationship that he was having with his on again, off again girlfriend. It was a real life “Friends with Benefits”, and he was playing the co-leading role. He felt as though that he was being lied to by society. He had a void in his life that he was trying to fill with sex and it wasn’t doing the trick. He knows there is more to life. The world is telling our students that if they are not involved sexually with their partner then they are not normal. I have also talked with students that have had multiple sexual partners with most of them not being their boyfriend/girlfriend. Pornography has also became an epidemic that we seem to just overlook. What is going on? Why does a student in todays society feel like this is acceptable?
I hate to say this but this isn’t something that has just begun. It has been going on for much longer than you and I have been on this earth. Sexual immorality has been prevelant for centuries.
I have been reading a lot through the apostle Paul’s letters over the past few months and we see him dealing with this same issue in the church. Paul is talking to the church at Corinth when he writes these words in 1 Corinthians,
18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. ESV.
The Message puts it this way,
Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.
I don’t expect television to all of a sudden stop showing filth. I also don’t expect the internet to filter pornography from the public. There are however some useful tools that can assist in keeping your kids from looking at bad things on the computer. You can install the X3 Watch accountability software that you can link with your and a partners email that will alert you each time your student gets on one of these pages.
Talk with your students about the problems that pornography, as well as premarital sexual relationships can cause for their lives. It goes far beyond the risk of pregnancy. It can destroy our souls. It will leave us more empty and lonely than we can imagine. Are bodies are sacred. They are a temple. They are property of our Heavenly Father. They are not our own.
You are not your own.